Friday, 15 July 2011
Culturally Different, Identically the Same - How a book changed a misconception.
While teaching the woman’s certificate course in the Bible Institute, I require my students to read one book of their choosing and give a written and oral report each term (3 per year). The ladies often check-out more books but focus on one for their reports. Keeping in mind that English is not their first language, I believe the ladies do an outstanding job of reading and reporting on the books of their choosing. The following is one such report.
Juliet read, What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women, written by Dr. James Dobson.
Juliet wrote (copied as it was written):
"I learned that sources of depression in women are many and yet sometimes I think is just Juliet going through this. From suffering low-esteem, time pressure, financial difficulties, loneliness, isolation and menstrual and physiological problems just to name a few, all these are emotional struggles we struggle with. I have learned a lot from this book, from the interviews the author did with his patients as their counselor. They are very encouraging to me just to read another wife / mother share her heart to mine."
"I have learned that I can’t change my husband except God’s spirit in him, but I can change myself and work to be the best wife / mother, express my feelings as facts not as emotions and serve the Lord through him. I can only change what I can and that is me. The book has helped me to understand because of our menstrual circle which women have it affects their mood. Children also is another type of depression in women and yet in Kenya if the children don’t succeed or they turn rebellious people ask who is their mother or they are like their mother. This can take a woman to an early grave."
"Finally to be honest I wish husbands knew about the needs of their wives."
Juliet revealed, through her report and a personal conversation that followed, Kenyan women often think American (and European) women live a life that is very different from theirs. In short, America is the place where dreams come true, therefore, women of America have a wonderful, stress-free, easy life... nothing like the life Kenyan women have. Juliet discovered that though our daily activities are different, our emotional needs are identical.
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